After posting True Scammer Story #1 a friend of mine who saw the post revealed his story to me about how he fell for a recent scam. Then there was a post scam surprise that prevented any personal negative consequences.
He was on the major adult site and after negotiating for some time the complex swamp of scammers, the false and misleading postings, etc. ad nauseum he thought he had landed on a person who really seemed legitimate.
She didn’t post an explicit sexual photo (good start) and she posted that she lived nearby and only stipulated that she was looking for a straight male relationship (no couples and any other ranges of preferences). She posted a real life shot with a USA looking background (no studio glamour shot), and her look was pretty basic (plain clothes, nice smile).
My friend emailed her and got a reply the next day (good sign instead of the normal scammer who gets back to you almost immediately). She explained in detail and openly that her husband was a long haul truck driver who had lost all sexual interest. She lived in a very small town and would like to meet someone discreetly out of her area. Her English was good in her emails and my friend and her wrote to each other for about a week before deciding to Skype.
She invited him to Skype (innocent enough but it becomes a red flag) late one evening. My friend had not used Skype for a long time and he forgot how to set it up. So, she guided him through a set up of Skype. Many attempts to connect failed and she asked him for a screen shot which he didn’t know how to do and then she did something that made a photo come up of her at a desk looking at her computer. She texted him that he could switch on his video and she would do hers. When her video came up she began undressing and asked him to do the same. He did. They were engaging in sexual actions and she kept asking him to hold his device down and point it upward so she could see his face. He was unable to accomplish this (lucky for him as his face would have been proof that he was actually the one engaging in the act). Her video ended and then suddenly in large letters a message appeared telling him that he had been marked and that all of his information had been captured.
A man’s voice came on Skype and said he had all of his information and the video he just made of the sex action and was going to post it to his friends and relatives and he showed a list of my friends relatives on the screen. What the scammer didn’t know is that the list shown was the same as any general search would reveal online under a persons name. Also, the list was very old with an ex wife and some friends he had not been in contact with. There were names of his four children. Lucky for my friend he did not send the screen shot which would have shown all the contacts my friend had Skyped over time.
My friend just shut down the Skype and didn’t communicate any longer with the scammer. He blocked the scammers phone number and deleted the text threads. He went to bed however with some fears about how the scammer might proceed. He then emailed his children (all grown with families) that they should not open any emails from a certain email address as the email was from a scammer and opening it would capture all their passwords.
The next day my friend received a text from the scammer using a different phone number. The scammer said that he discovered that my friend was a scammer and he was sorry for ruining his day last night and wished him luck. Huh?
My friend could only conclude that the scammer ran into a difficult time finding information online about him because his name is the same as two famous celebrities and in order to get to his information you would have to wade through endless sites about the celebrities. My friend also had specialized security software that filtered out a lot of unknown and unwanted solicitation online. He had also unlisted himself from those people finder sites that would allow delisting of his information without requiring a social security number (yes, if you want your information unavailable on some people finder sites you have to give your social security number. This is a main tactic to prevent people from proceeding with a delisting request).
Luckily nothing has happened to my friend since the incident, and he laughs that now maybe he is on a scammer list within the scammer community and won’t be bothered again (he’s not far off the mark as there is a Sucker List passed among scammers of those people who have been duped).
The point of this story is to stay off of adult sites especially if you are new to this dating scene. As I have mentioned just about any hook up on a normal dating site will eventually produce a loving sexual relationship (if that’s your goal). Don’t wade through the all the land mines on an adult site. It’s usually not worth it.
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